Asking someone to explain their question is a surefire way to make them feel silly for asking.
"philosophically speaking, aren’t we all single?"
Another one for the folks who ask too often, Deadwiler says, like prying aunts and "concerned" siblings. Say you're in a committed relationship with yourself, with cookies, with a certain Netflix show — whatever feels funny or true in the moment. All the best people are.
I've been having the time of my life, but I'll look for someone soon.
It sends the message they really need to chill. By Carolyn Steber.
1. immerse yourself in meaningful activities—and enjoy the moment
My future partner is still gathering experience for the job. Are you still married? It's a playful way to turn the tables, Ringel says, even though you're just joking. Sheva Assar, PsyDd clinical psychologist. And for anyone who's asking why you're still singlethat's a great message to send. Acamea Deadwilerauthor and dating exert.
Glad to clear that up for you. It'll help them subconsciously realize we're all in the same boat. Say this while you smile, glance down bashfully, and then back up into their eyes.
Say this while laughing, or while staring daggers over your wine glass. This response is a great way to "effectively communicate your positive perspective on your relationship status," Assar says, especially if the person asking thinks being single is a bad thing. Canwen Xurelationship expert.
If someone is scratching their chin and philosophizing about your single life — whether it's good, or bad, or if you'll "ever find someone" — philosophize right back. Because who doesn't want to be the cool aunt? Karolina Bartnikdating and relationship expert. Then say this. While you could try to explain that you're finding yourself after a breakupor say — for the th time — that you actually like being singleit's often better to save your breath and change the subject.
Let them imagine you sitting at home Photoshopping photos and tricking strangers into wiring money.
Vanessa Ringelrelationship coach. It'll remind them it's a personal choice, Assar says, instead of something negative that's "happening to you. Liam Barnettdating and relationship coach. This response makes it clear you aren't interested in dating just to date, Scott-Hudson says, but that you want to find the right person for you.
How many of me do you see? According to Tammy Shakleean LGBTQ relationship expert and matchmaker, you'll want to use this comeback for those who have a glisten of concern in their eyes.
Want to be off the charts cool? Jade Biancadating expert and matchmaker.
It's why you need to have a few witty responses to the "are you still single" question ready to go because not only is it none of their business, you'll probably also want to deflect their negative vibes. Here, 21 witty comebacks to try the next time someone asks if you're single that experts say work perfectly, in a variety of situations.
"i'm actually catfishing a of people right now."
Say this while casually putting on your sunglasses, Jade Biancaa dating expert and matchmaker, tells Bustle. If you're feeling cornered, don't forget that "humor dissolves tension well," Karolina Bartnika dating and relationship expert, tells Bustle.
Again, flipping the question back on them is a great go-to. To really drive home the fact that you're OK with being single for the time being, use this line.
Whether you're single and want to be, fresh out of a breakup, or on the lookout for your next partner, it's never fun when a friend or relative swoops in out of nowhere and asks personal questions about your love life. The cleverness of this response will deflect the question, Ringel says, and subtly hint it's time to change the subject. If you can turn an awkward situation into something comical, Bartnik says, go for it.
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Drop that, then launch into an overview of all the amazing things you've been doing lately, Barnett says, like work projects, hobbies, etc. Let me answer in advance so you don't ask again for a while. It always seems to happen when you least expect it, too — like in the middle of a great conversation at dinner or via text on a random Tuesday night.