I’m easy to please. All I ask for relaxing is to just do something (or nothing) that is not work. Usually this takes the form of ordering a pizza for dinner and hanging out on the couch with my family and the TV on. Or maybe it means coffee and magazines. But it usually is just some form of me sitting around. On really bad days, I’m sitting around with a glass of wine.
In an ideal world, I’d say that after a hard day, I relax by going for a run or some other athletic activity, but in all honesty after most days I’m too beat to do much else than just sit there. Since getting a Kindle, I have been reading every single night before bed. This means both that I have read nearly 40 “fun” books this year alone, but also that I manage to slow my mind down enough that I can sleep through the night.
Hanging out with my family does make me feel a million percent better when I’ve had a bad day. I spend my days doing work that is hard. Law is complex and uncertain and confusing. Sometimes (often) the practice of law feels like I’m picking my way through landmines. And the stress is even more exacerbated because you are responsible for solving someone else’s problems. So if you set off one of those landmines, you’ve blown it for both you and them. (If it’s not already painfully obvious, this hasn’t been a great week.)
You know what’s not hard? Parenting. People say parenting is hard, but it’s not. It is very frustrating and very exhausting and full of unwinnable battles, but it is not hard. And hanging out with my kid after a hard day makes me feel a little better, because it’s pretty darn hard to truly screw up this parenting thing.
Also, ice cream.